Do you want your relationship last for life? Is your partner is also feeling the same way? Because relationship is a two way street and It can’t be up to one person to keep up the relationship, it needs both people to thrive.
Every individual is unique and so is there relationships. Even if your relationship is different there are some rules that are common in all strong relationships.
Let’s find out what are they:
- Know and understand that everyone is different. When you’re able to understand the differences, you will better understand your partner and thus be able to strengthen and deepen your relationship.
- Be real. When in a relationship show the real you, not the fake you. Be honest. Trust is vital. Trust is gained through honesty.
- Respect your partner whole heartedly for who they are. never ever force your partner to change into someone who they are not.
- Learn to spend quality time with each other. There’s no better way to fall more in love with each other as the relationship grows.
- Know your partner’s love language. It’s important to understand the way they feel love, and how they express it. When you understand your partner’s love language, you will be able to speak their language. Discover love languages here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/
- Turn off the TV! There is nothing wrong with watching TV every now and then, but don’t make it a habit to stick yourself to the TV after work. Turn off the television and do something fun! Go outside for a walk together or even just sit down on the couch and play a board game.
- Take care of yourself. In a relationship, we focus so much of our energy and time towards the other person that we forget about taking care of ourselves. Make sure that you take the time to focus on developing your own mind, body and soul.
- When you and your partner are out in public, keeping a united front will help strengthen your relationship. Never embarrass your partner when out in public or In front of relatives or friends, as doing so will make your partner uncomfortable and will create bitterness.
- Show your appreciation and love that you have for your partner. Trust me, its very important to be expressive.
- Create healthy boundaries with your respective parents. You both are adults with your own values, rights, choices, preferences and capacities. Do not turn to your parents for every small issue until it’s emergency.
- When you are in relationship it is believed that you are an adult. Take the charge of your life and relationship. Don’t turn to your parents to seek permissions. It will make your spouse feel insignificant.
- Listen to your partner if they have any concern with your family members. Don’t be offensive. Stand up and defend your spouse in your homes against your families or parents from verbal, mental, emotional or physical abuse. If you can’t do this then don’t marry and don’t ruin someone’s life.
- Be conscious and supportive of what your partner wants to accomplish. Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our own lives and ambitions that we forget to truly stay connected with what our partner wants from life.
- Be on the same page with finances always.
- Listen what your partner is saying. Pay attention. It will help you to understand what they are going through.
- Never, ever curse at each other. All your post-curse apologies cannot erase what you said from your partner’s memory.
- Don’t make threats or conditions. Conditional threats like “If you do or don’t do this, then I will do or not do that…” create a lot of doubt and trust issues in a partner’s mind about the future of the relationship.
- Never compare your partner with anyone. Nothing is more hurtful than being compared.
- Don’t go to bed with unresolved issues. Sleeping next to someone you are furious at is nearly impossible.
- Don’t give someone the silent treatment. This mental abuse creates a next level of tension that makes daily living unbearable.
- Don’t fight or yell in front of your kids. The noise you generate from screaming at each other horrifies young kids. It will affect their mental health and impact their future relationships as well.
- Don’t throw things when you’re angry. Throwing anything at someone can lead to an escalation of the fight to the worse levels, injuries, or even criminal charges if the injuries are serious enough.
- Remember, it’s not about who wears the pants. It’s about finding a healthy balance and mutual respect in a relationship.
- It’s healthy to have healthy argument. It’s not healthy to have screaming matches. If you are in relationship and never fight, it means one of you is hiding something in or you afraid of your partners reaction and this is not healthy at all.
- It’s not your job to fix the person you love. You can’t fix their work place issues, their insecurities, their parents’ issues. All you can do is be there for them and help them through it.
- Understand your significant other’s background. Everybody has a journey. They’ve gone through things to make them the person they are today. Appreciate and understand their past. Talk to them, listen to them and try to understand.
- Value each other’s interests. pay attention and have respect for what your partner likes and dislikes.
- If you are not getting something you need, ask for it. Your partner is not a mind reader.
- Accept that no one is perfect. The perfect person doesn’t exist. Everyone has flaws. Everyone makes mistakes.
Follow the Harry Burns Airport Rule-
“Do not stop doing things you used to do in the beginning of the relationship. If you used to take your guy/girl to the airport, still take them. You should never stop trying to show your significant other that you care. Nothing is worse than hearing “How come you never ____________ anymore?”
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